Gaming and Media Violence: What Parents Need to Know
Despite years of research, many people still underestimate the impact violent media—especially video games—can have on children. But the science is clear: violent media increases aggression, particularly in young people.
As games like Fortnite continue to dominate kids’ screens, what can parents do?
What the Experts Say
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics and child development specialists:
Media-free time is essential. Kids need plenty of unstructured, screen-free time for creative play and real-world connection.
Avoid violent media, especially for kids under 6. Young children can't distinguish fantasy from reality. Even cartoon violence can shift their worldview. Ideally, kids under 14 should only play non-violent, pro-social video games.
Know what your kids are watching and playing. Use tools like ESRB ratings and Common Sense Media reviews to guide your choices—not peer pressure.
Co-view and co-play. Play or watch with your kids to understand what they’re engaging with and offer your perspective. It’s a great way to connect and reinforce your family’s values.
Talk about what media teaches. Does it reward violence? Normalize harmful behavior? Or model empathy and realistic consequences?
Your Role as a Parent
Set clear limits. You are allowed to say “no” to violent content—even if “everyone else is playing it.”
Promote positive play. There are plenty of non-violent games that encourage teamwork, creativity, or strategic thinking.
Help kids make sense of media. Ask questions like:
How did that game make you feel?
Why do you think you like it?
Would you act like that in real life?
Does it teach anything helpful?
Additional Tips
Make offline life a priority. Encourage face-to-face time, outdoor play, and real hobbies. Replace violent games with virtual sports—or better yet, real sports.
Talk about brain science. Kids are curious—teach them how games hijack their brains with constant rewards that can make everyday activities seem boring by comparison.
Explain persuasive design. Games are built to keep players hooked and spending money. Help your kids recognize when they’re being manipulated.
Watch for red flags. If your child uses games to escape real-life stress or becomes moody and aggressive afterward, it’s time to set firmer boundaries and possibly consult your pediatrician.
Encourage a reset. After gaming, movement can help balance out dopamine spikes. Go for a walk, shoot hoops, or even help with chores.
Set Limits that Support Growth
Limit gaming on school nights. Prioritize sleep, study, and face-to-face time.
Encourage creative activities. Keep art supplies, building tools, and books handy.
Earn screen time. Require skill-building activities like reading, helping around the house, or outdoor play before allowing gaming.
